David's lessons on leadership - Reputation

In a series of posts I reflect upon what we can learn about leadership from David, King of Israel.  If this is the first post in the series you have read, please do a quick review of the January 2, 2009 blog titled  “David’s lessons on leadership – Intro”; that post outlines why I am looking into David’s life.

The previous blog dealt with Trust  - comprised of character and competence.  This post deals with “Reputation”

What is your dearest possession?  Maybe your reputation is not #1, but I bet it is near the top.  This lesson on reputation comes from the time that Hushai the spy leveraged David’s reputation into an advantage. 

The back-story to this intrigue is that Absalom, the third son of David leads a revolt against David.  As Absalom holds the city and David is in retreat, Absalom seeks out his chief advisor.  This advisor, Ahithophel tells Absalom, “I would choose twelve thousand men and set out tonight in pursuit of David. Attack him while he is weary and weak”.  

Absalom turns to another advisor, Hushai, who he does not know is in place to defend the king’s interest and spy for him.  Hushai’s response instills fear in Absalom by reminding him of David’s reputation as a warrior.  "The advice Ahithophel has given is not good this time. You know your father and his men; they are fighters, and as fierce as a wild bear robbed of her cubs. If he should attack your troops first, whoever hears about it will say, 'There has been a slaughter among the troops who follow Absalom.' Then even the bravest soldier, whose heart is like the heart of a lion, will melt with fear, for all Israel knows that your father is a fighter and that those with him are brave.”

David’s reputation alone caused his son to stop pressing forward when he had an advantage and changed the course of the war of rebellion with his own son.

We all have a reputation, the question is – how close is it to who we are?  You cannot create your reputation, since it is what people think of you. All you can do is concentrate on your character, maintain consistency and then be comfortable with what happens next.  Abe Lincoln said, “Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.”

I was on a job interview recently in my hometown and sat down to breakfast with a CEO who is well connected in the local high tech community.  He said, “Alex, this is a pretty small place and I have been checking you out”.  Gulp – here it comes, my reputation.  “Alex, word is that even when faced with challenging situations you do the right thing”.

Wow.  Now, I want a job with this man and the company he leads, but whatever happens from here, I am OK.  That morning - that moment in the breakfast meeting, I received a great gift.  I was told that my reputation was someone who will do the right thing.  I learned that at least for one brief moment, my reputation and what I desire my character to be are sometimes in sync.  That is pure gold, and I will do all that is possible to defend and maintain that reputation.

In David’s life, his reputation was a weapon, it preceded him, and it got things done for him even when he was not present.  It is the same for us; we can get things done through just our reputation.  The question is, “what do you want to get done through my reputation?”  Once you know that answer, the best next action is to work on character.  And the best way to work on my character is to focus on who we are becoming, not just what we are doing.

Reputation - created with character, strengthened by consistency, tested by trials and reflected in how others treat us.  "It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently." Warren Buffett